Category Archives: Self Help

Ultimate guide to happiness living here and now

How can you be happy?

 

This is a big one. Everybody says "I just want to be happy". However, when you ask them what happiness means to them, they either don't know or say "If I had a house, family, and a job I would be happy". The problem is that people associate happiness with joy, laughter, good health etc, while this is an illusion. We all need a balance in life and we function best when we are centred, focused and present. When you are elated, you cannot take good decisions, and the same applies to when you are down. We get used to things, so if we are joyous for too long, we get bored with it and automatically look for the opposite, but usually life brings us down back to earth. When we are down, we look for the opposite and other people come to cheer us up. If you get rich and healthy (or so called happy), somebody around will not be, and that will bring you down again. So what can you do? The wise men say: "Live in the here and now", but they don't say what that means. In those 3 videos I explain the concept to you in simple terms discussing also various implications and applications of it. To understand the concept you need to answer a few questions first, which I also discuss in the videos:

  • What is reality?
  • Who really are you? Who do you mean when you say "I, me, myself, my"?
  • Where is the past?
  • Where does future exist?
  • Where is life taking place right now? Where is it happening?
  • What is mind? Are you a mind or more?

Please, leave me some comments if you have any questions.

Video 1 – dealing with future:

 

Video 2 – handling your past:

Video 3 – being present:

Thank you for your questions and comments.

Kamil K.

Face your fear and see it for what it really is, and you’ll be surprised

As human beings we are “doomed” to feel fear every now and then. There will be various bases for it, including financial security, and there’s no way out. Even if you are very wealthy you still have fears, doubts, ups and downs, worries and all sort of “negative” feelings. You cannot get rid of them, but you can balance them using various techniques.

One of the most effective techniques to deal with “bad” feelings is observing your feelings to see them for what they really are, which is nothing more than a body reaction, to which your mind built a story, for example “This is scary” or “Now I’m in trouble”. It’s this story that makes you interpret certain reactions in your body as certain feelings. Fear and pain very often are manifested in the body in exactly the same way as excitement and pleasure. Simply observe your body when you have those feelings, focus on those feelings in the body and turn their volume to the maximum until you see them for what they really are. It might take 10-20 minutes before that happens. Just be patient – stay with it, and the reward will surprise you beyond your belief.

To your success

Kamil K.

Thank you for your comments and questions below.

How to deal with depression, fear, stress…

In these two videos I discuss an alternative approach to the issue of negative/bad feelings. This is a complex topic and you need to apply your own common sense while using the techniques I suggest. They work 100% of times, you just need to combine them sometimes with other techniques.

It’s also important to keep a balance between observing the negative patiently, and in running away from it by looking for pleasures or distractions. Practice both and see what works for you. Please, read what other thought about it and leave your comments as well.

Part 1

Part 2

Thank you for your comment.

Kamil K.

Want a job? Get perfect CV or resume here – tips, layout, wording

Before you start creating a resume think of it’s purpose: What do I want to achieve with it. Well, let me help you – there is only one purpose: to get to an interview!!!

Now, imagine that you are the person looking through a stack of CV’s (a recruitment agent, a business owner, an HR person) – what are they looking for? How many CV’s do they have on the desk? How much time do they have? How important is it for them to find a suitable candidate?

Keep your CV short, professional, concise, to the point. Highlight the benefits you can bring to the business. Remember, the person looking at your CV is not interested in your education or experience as such, but in what benefits you can bring and if you can do the job – keep that in mind.

Now watch the video and leave me your comments or questions, and will propmtly answer them:

Many thanks for your comments.

Kamil K.